There’s truly no relationship that can compare to the bond between a human and their pet.
For some, a pet is “just a pet” — but for many of us, our pets are our family. They’re our kids, confidants, comedic relief, comfort, best friends, & soul mates.
For how much joy they bring us each and every day (even when they’re being little stinkers or causing trouble…) it’s devastating beyond words to see them unhappy, hurting, or slipping away from us.
We all know that the only guarantee in life is death — and yet, it doesn’t make pet loss, or even the anticipation of losing a pet, any easier. Really, it can be by far one of the most painful experiences we can ever go through as humans.
Whether the death of your pet was sudden, unexpected, and tragic, or even if you know your pet’s life is coming to an end due to a diagnosis, illness, or old age, there’s a lot of complex feelings, emotions, and ways of grieving that can come up for loving pet-parents like us.
First of all, I want you to know and believe that ALL of these thoughts, feelings, and questions are super valid. Pet loss is a deeply personal and intimate experience that will look and feel different for everyone. We will all cope, grieve, and process the loss in different ways.
Maybe you find yourself thinking or asking questions like…
“Was there something I did wrong?”
“Is there anything I could have done better?”
“I feel so guilty that they died, it’s my fault.”
“I should have spent more time with them.”
“I wish I could just have one more day to tell them how much I love them.”
“When is the right time to let them go?”
“Were they happy? Did they feel loved? Did I give them as amazing of a life as they deserved?”
As your pet loss doula, my purpose is to hold sacred space for you and your family to process pet loss and grief — and to make sure your pet’s final days are filled with peace, love, and comfort.
If you’re preparing for pet loss & in a place of anticipatory grief, I’m here to hold space for you to process the complex emotions that loving pet-parents feel when waiting for your pet to die and the potential guilt that comes along with that.
A beautiful, sacred, and peaceful goodbye can happen just the way you want it (or as close to it as possible), and I’ll make sure you don’t have to waste precious time or energy to make it all happen.
And, if you’re on the other side of experiencing sudden pet loss, I’m also here to support you with 1:1 sessions to hold a trauma-informed space for your experience, emotions, and helping you feel less isolated and alone in the grieving process.
After losing both of my cats slowly within 4 months in 2021, the grief I experienced after their losses was soooo intense. I had so many mentors and helpful humans in my life during their losses: therapists, holistic & traditional vets, meditation mentors, & family who understood — and yet, the process of losing them was still so overwhelming and isolating. I'll never forget how painful it was to have to decide to help them die and to make so many end-of-life decisions. I felt like I had no idea HOW to make those decisions, or even what decisions I could make.
My physical and mental health were greatly affected through the before, during, and after of losing my animals — however, experiencing & processing their deaths also greatly strengthened my spiritual health. As much as it hurt my human body & analytical mind to watch them die, my spirit and soul KNOWS they are at peace, and I'm forever connected to them. Helping them die comfortably and peacefully was actually a beautiful process, and it can be for you, too.
No matter what your situation or experience with pet loss may be, I do know this to be true…
Pet loss CAN be sacred & beautiful — and, letting go is an act of love. As the saying goes in Buddhism, “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” So much of attachment and holding on leads to suffering. If we can learn to let go and not be attached to our pets, we will still be sad and miss them when they’re gone, but we won’t be stuck suffering as much, or for as long.
I also truly believe that death is NOT the end. It may not ever be a comfortable process, but knowing when our soul contracts with our pets are done, that doesn’t mean they are gone from us forever.
No matter what you believe, your pets will live on in your heart and soul forever, and that’s something NOBODY can take away from you — not even death.